Never loose sight that in choosing to share oneself with a lifelong partner, you are giving the most precious gift of you. After the blissful years end you will know how well your gift has been received. If that gift is returned with pain, then your partner is not equal to your love.
When you keep trying at the expense of all others. When you think that a partnership is worth all the pain and lost years. Then you must submit to an awakening. Life is not meant to be so sullen, not even at the very least. Nothing can ever be as long as they can not see. An awakening to the knowledge that making someone happy is the greatest form of love.